When it comes to picking your wedding party, we’re in the party (get it?) of believing there aren’t any rules. Of course, there are certain factors to consider (you probably don’t want to be planning and coordinating a bachelorette party with 80 people), but overall, we think you should have as many—or as few—bridesmaids as you want. Here’s why.
There’s no prescribed amount.
Don’t listen to people who tell you there’s a “sweet spot” or your mother who repeatedly encourages you to stick to a number between “5 and 10.” You should have however many you feel comfortable with. Stick to your gut.
You don’t have to have the same amount of attendants as your partner.
To make things “aesthetically pleasing,” some couples might choose to coordinate the number of attendants they have on each side, but this certainly isn’t mandatory or important in the least. If your spouse has 10 brothers from his fraternity that he has to include, and you only have three really close girlfriends, don’t worry about making sure you’re even. It’ll still look perfect—we promise.
You don’t have to pick someone you don’t want to.
That said, if you really do want to have the same amount as your partner, is it really worth picking someone to be in your bridal party that you wouldn’t have included otherwise? Being a bridesmaid is an honor and a commitment, and you shouldn’t pick—or in the same vein, cut—anyone for the sake of optics.
It’s okay to have zero bridesmaids.
Yes, really. If you feel like you’re not close enough to anyone to ask—or on the other hand, close with too many people to choose—it’s totally normal to simply forego having bridesmaids altogether. While some people’s feelings might be hurt, they’ll get over it, and you’ll be having the wedding you want, which is the most important thing. Which brings us to our last point…
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It’s your wedding.
Not to state the obvious, but this is the time to carry out your vision (and no one else’s). It’s okay to be a little selfish and choose two bridesmaids over 25, or vice versa (much to your mother’s chagrin). As long as you have the people you want standing next to you at the altar, that’s all that matters.
