We’re getting married in July and this will be the second marriage for both of us. When I mentioned wedding invitations to my mother, she was appalled that I was even considering them. She said that you don’t send wedding invites when you remarry — that it’s the same as asking for a wedding gift. Is this true? I don’t care about gifts — I just want everyone to know I’ve found the man I want to spend the rest of my life with!
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How will people know to come to your wedding if you don’t send an invitation? It’s true that second weddings are often less formal — perhaps you won’t choose ecru paper with engraved script, for instance. But you’ll still want to send nice, official invitations to your guests. Also know that an invite itself is not a hint that you want a gift! If you feel strongly about guests not buying presents, feel free to include the words, “Your presence is your present” or something to that effect on your invite.
